Do you feel uncomfortable or that your boundaries are violated by the behaviour of others? Address the issue as soon as possible. Make it clear how the behaviour affects you and that you do not accept it. This clear feedback is often enough for the other person to think about their behaviour and change it.

If you find it difficult to address the situation directly, you may also formulate your concerns in writing. Make sure you remain clear and objective. Describe how the behaviour affects you and make it clear what kind of behaviour you would like to see instead.

If behaviour that violates personal boundaries is repeated, document this accurately. Make a note of the date, occasion, people involved, the incident itself and your reaction to it. Also collect relevant emails, text messages, photos and/or other evidence.

If the situation cannot be clarified, this documentation can be an important basis for discussions or further steps. Also record positive developments – this helps you to self-reflect and can be useful in arbitration discussions.

Find out what support options your employer offers. There are generally confidential points of contact and non-confidential contacts.

• Confidential points of contact listen to you, provide an overview of the courses of action open to you as well as the legal aspects, and help you to make an informed decision on how to deal with the situation. The people at confidential contact points have no obligation to intervene, i.e. they do not have to act. It is up to you as the affected person to decide how to proceed.
• Contacts with a duty to intervene: Your company has a contact person who is required to intervene. These are usually managers and/or HR managers, but they can also be someone at an external reporting point. Find out the details. These contact persons have a duty to intervene and must take appropriate measures if something is reported. However, they cannot guarantee confidentiality.

In stressful situations, it is particularly important to take good care of yourself and do things that give you strength and energy. Spend time outdoors, exercise, meet friends, relax in the bath, read a good book and just do things that make you feel positive.

Talk to a trusted person in your private life about the incident. This creates distance from the situation and reduces strain.

Violations of personal integrity can have a significant impact on your health. Pay attention to your body’s warning signs and take them seriously. If you notice any health problems, consult your GP in good time.

Depending on the nature and extent of the violation of integrity, this may have consequences under civil and criminal law. Seek advice on whether you think it is worth filing a criminal complaint and what time limits apply in your specific case.